Get Out of Jail Free for Softball?

You know how in Monopoly, you get to use the “Get Out of Jail Free” card to get youself out a jam?

Well, sometimes players need it in softball too!

Have you ever run across a player that wants to be too perfect?  Perfectionism in athletes can actually be detrimental because athletes that are perfectionist often:

  • are afraid to make mistakes
  • get upset over the littlest mistake
  • are often disappointed frustrated with their performance because it never measures up to perfection
  • are reasonably critical of themselves
  • expect too much of themselves

All of these things can put a dent in a your confidence. If you try to play this game without confidence, you’ll probably fail much more than you should and, on top of that, won’t find the game very enjoyable. Obviously if you get to that point, you’re in trouble!  Once this game is “no fun” its either time for serious changes or time to give it up.

SO – since you probably don’t want to get to that point, here’s a little trick Dr. Patrick Cohn, youth sports psychology expert, uses to help players who are perfectionists.

He suggests giving them 3 “Get Out of Jail Free” cards at the beginning of a game or practice.  If your player/child makes a mistake, they (mentally) use one of the cards to let go of the mistake and move on.  Being able to let a mistake go and keep moving forward is such a critical part of becoming the best softball player you can be.  Not only that, this is yet another skill that applies to all areas of life, not just to playing softball on the field.

What do you think?  Is this something you would try?  Do you think this can help you?

Finish It!

As the end of another softball season approaches, I am reminded of the challenge that lies in finishing stronger than you started. At the beginning of a season, there’s always so much excitement, so much anticipation, so much desire to come out each day and do your thing on the softball field.

But after months and month of coming out day after day, it’s not always easy to stay motivated and focused. It can be quite simple to start “going through the motions” and “check-out” mentally as you take your zillionth swing or throw of the season.

BUT - if you want to be the best you can be in this season, if you want to finish stronger than you started, (which is the point right), you really need to make a commitment to what you are doing. You need to make a commitment to put yourself “all-in” and push all the way through to the end and beyond – similarly to what I talked about in this baserunning post.

That’s why I think it’s so critical to be able to create a habit, the sooner the better, of doing the little things to perfection. Sometimes the long road ahead, or the long road that has already passed, make the entire journey too daunting to look at. It makes this ONE drill seem insignificant. In times like those, if you can simply go back to your simple habit of investing in each drill, in each rep – put your whole self in in each little segment of your training – just commit to that one moment, that one rep at a time…it can help you keep moving forward when the day-to-day starts to feel mundane. It can help keep you on track while to take a moment to rejuvenate and get the fire burning again.

If you can’t do that, if you don’t know how to keep doing at least those “little things” right, then that one “insignificant” drill or rep turns into two, or three. or simply turns into an entire day (what’s ONE practice right?). Then next thing you know, another day is “insignificant” and another and another until you’ve spent in entire week being sub-par, training at a level you’d never actually want to perform at and what good did you do yourself? Probably none at all, and in fact, you may have actually “hurt” yourself creating bad habits physically and/or mentally.

When it comes to staying “on track,” it’s also extremely important to set out with some “bigger” purpose. Something far more important to you than just one drill. Something that you are working toward and working for. Something that makes each drill and each rep and each day on the field worth it. If you’re lucky – just being there is reward enough. For some, that’s the way it is. The opportunity to go out there and do softball stuff is the highlight of any given day. For those people, motivation and focus is rarely a major issue.

But even the best, even the most determined sometimes get into those “moods” when they simply don’t feel like 100%. You know what? That’s human. It’s OKAY. Give yourself a break every now and then. Understand that it’s part of being an athlete. It’s something everyone goes through. Don’t waste time worrying about it. Acknowledge it, address it, and do what you need to do to refresh. You need it. It’s almost impossible to stay at full intensity ALL the time. You need to find ways to unwind, to relax, to refresh, and to rejuvenate mind, body, and spirit in order to perform the best you can.

Finishing up a season strong, isn’t easy. That’s why only a few an do it and do it well. It’s easy at the beginning. It’s easy as you start getting to the “meat” of your season. But when all that’s done and you’ve been climbing and climbing all year long…now there are two directions you can go. You can keep pushing and continue reaching higher and higher – usually this is the tougher, more challenging road. OR you can let up, stop pushing, and find yourself sliding,. or maybe even rolling, down the hill or mountain you just climbed.

Which is it going to be?
Can you stay focused? Can you re-commit? Can you, for just a fraction of the time you’ve already put in…keep moving forward and finish stronger than you started? Take it one step at a time…you can do it!

What Do Fries Have to do with Softball?

fastpitch softball fries

Actually, not much. I was just thinking of a common phrase you hear at fast food restaurants where you can “have it your way.” One thing they always ask you is, “Would you like fries with that?” Some softball players seem to carry the “have it your way” mentality onto the softball field. I mean, believe me, I think it’s great that all I have to do is ask and I’ll get a chicken sandwich with no lettuce, but athletics doesn’t always allow you to have things your way. Too many softball players want things “their way” in order to perform at their best. Guess how often they’re going to do well.

Not very often.

Yes, bad weather may make the game more challenging. Yes, bad calls can be frustrating. Yes, having your great hits caught all day long can be discouraging. BUT if you always let these outside circumstances dictate your confidence and how you feel, chances are you’re never going to be in the optimal mindset for maximum performance.

I mean seriously, you’ve trained for too long to let ANYTHING take that away from you, much less something you have no control over. Whether this is only your first season and you’ve only been training for a few weeks or whether you’re an experienced player and you’ve been training for years – trust all that hard work you’ve already done. Don’t let one or two things on game day override all that effort you’ve already invested in yourself and make you feel like you can’t be successful.

It’s true the situation around you or your environment may not be what you want. Maybe the field you play on isn’t the best, or your team isn’t the best, or your equipment isn’t the best, BUT there will always be something and you can’t let that stop you from being your best.

You have full control over what you think and the mindset you having going into competition. Don’t leave it to chance. Stop allowing yourself to use excuses for poor performance. The more you blame other things, the less you’ll be able to make the real adjustments you need to help you get better as a player.

fastpitch softball fieldIf you’re waiting for everything to be perfect before you can perform your best, it may never happen. Yes, it might be easier if you had the best of everything around you – better teammates, better coaches, better field conditions, better equipment, better umpires, etc, etc, etc but if you keep looking to everything around you to get better or keep looking to what you don’t have as the reason you’re not successful, where do you draw the line? When does it stop? Really, if you’re going to wait for all that to be just right, what else are you going to want? Would you like the sun to be at a certain angle perhaps? How about we wait for the wind to blow one direction while you’re up to bat and the other when your opponent is up to bat? Planetary alignment maybe?

Do you want fries with that?

You get the idea. When does it end? If you keep looking for excuses, you’re never going to reach your full potential. At some point you have to put all the outside BullSh*t aside and take responsibility for your own performance! Too much focus on everything else that could be different doesn’t help YOU get better. Make adjustments where you can – with YOURSELF and stop focusing so much on things you have no control over.

Coach, Pick Me!

fastpitch softball performanceOne of the biggest complaints and grumbles a softball coach has to deal with is about playing time.  Players say, “Coach, pick me! Pick me!” in different ways.  Very rarely do they actually say those words and too often they try to get this message to their coach in a negative manner (i.e. grumbling, complaining, questioning, or just plain sulking).

But if you want to know one of the BEST ways to get your point across to your coach…keep reading…

Talk is cheap…

Actions speak louder than words…

If you want to send your coach a message, do it with your PERFORMANCE!

Your performance in practice, your performance in pre-game, your performance in game situations is much more likely to make an impression on your coach than anything you (or your parents) could say.  Make sure that the message you send with your performance is a consistently positive one and you’ll have a much better chance at getting the playing time you want.

5 Minutes to Confidence

Just a really quick note!  Dr. Tom Hanson, mental game expert has put up a free video for you today showing you a short, simple 5 minute exercise you can do to build your confidence quick.

Often time confidence is what separates good players from great players.  Confidence can be the difference between a successful at bat and a strike out.  So when you need to boost your confidence before a game or between innings, give this exercise a try.

It’s one that Dr. Hanson’s used time and time again with great success.  (and remember, he works with professional athletes as well – if it works for them, it can work for you too).

Watch the Free Video Now

Forget the Drama, Let ‘Em Talk

dramafreeNo matter where you play or what age level you play it, there will always be drama. Same is true in life by the way.  People will always talk.  Critics will always try to bring you down.  There will always be a competitor talking trash saying that what you do is inferior in some way.

Skip the arguments and trash talking and drama. It will always be around you.  Don’t get caught up in it.  If you really want to excel and reach your goals, you have no time for it.  Let them talk.  In the mean time you’ll be busy working on your game and getting better.  Then, when it comes down to it, when it really counts, guess who’ll be the one to actually get the job done?  Actually accomplishing the goals that they set?

Guess who will be the one that stands head and shoulders above the rest?

Them – with all the time they spent talking?

Or you – the one reaping the rewards of all the time you spent working?

Keep your mouth shut, your nose to the grindstone…keep doing what you LOVE, place your energy and effort in the right places, and let your results speak for themselves.

Focus Friday: Time to Tackle

This week’s Focus Friday is simple because it requires that you just think of ONE thing.  That’s right, we’re going to get super focused today so that you can get RESULTS.  Have you ever felt like you had so many things to do that you just didn’t know where to start.  Then because you didn’t know where to start, you just never really did anything at all.  Well, obviously, that’s not going to get you the positive changes you are looking for.

The only way to start making headway and get results sooner rather than later is to get focused!

So, my question to you is: What BIG problem will you tackle this week?

Notice the word problem is singular.  Just think of ONE thing, ONE issue that you need to and can take care of this week.  Think of one change that can make a big positive impact on your current situation.

Now, it doesn’t only have to be softball related.  Why?  Because I’ve found, that there are times when issues “off the field” affect our performance on the field.  As much as we try to keep those things separate, there are times when it’s very difficult to help.  Those “off field” issues can be as much of a distraction or challenge as your opponent in a game.  Sometimes you have to take care of a bothersome or pressing issue off the field so that you can focus better and perform with less worry and anxiety on the field.

So, what is the ONE big problem you are going to tackle this week (before next Focus Friday comes around)?

Leave a comment below and share the one obstacle/challenge/issue you WILL overcome in the next 7 days.