Comments on: Keep the Drama Off the Field http://allaboutfastpitch.com/Blog/keep-the-drama-off-the-field/?utm_source=rss&utm_medium=rss&utm_campaign=keep-the-drama-off-the-field It's all about the game! Fri, 30 Jul 2010 15:54:58 +0000 hourly 1 http://wordpress.org/?v=3.0 By: MISA http://allaboutfastpitch.com/Blog/keep-the-drama-off-the-field/comment-page-1/#comment-204 MISA Sun, 18 Jan 2009 08:23:00 +0000 http://allaboutfastpitch.com/Blog/?p=592#comment-204 Hello!<br/>It is interested very much.<br/>Please link to this site.<br/>http://drama-animation-free.blogspot.com/ Hello!
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]]> By: Anonymous http://allaboutfastpitch.com/Blog/keep-the-drama-off-the-field/comment-page-1/#comment-171 Anonymous Wed, 16 Jul 2008 03:04:00 +0000 http://allaboutfastpitch.com/Blog/?p=592#comment-171 I play on a high school team and we only won 3 game because of drama. We had 2 of our best player quit because of it. It's sad that it is still happening in high school I play on a high school team and we only won 3 game because of drama. We had 2 of our best player quit because of it. It’s sad that it is still happening in high school

]]> By: Glenn T http://allaboutfastpitch.com/Blog/keep-the-drama-off-the-field/comment-page-1/#comment-158 Glenn T Tue, 17 Jun 2008 03:42:00 +0000 http://allaboutfastpitch.com/Blog/?p=592#comment-158 A couple seasons back (2006) I coached 14U. There was some steam between two of the players, but nothing ever erupted. Until during practice, with a couple weeks to go before our end-of-season tournament the two girls came to a face off and even shoved each other. I stopped them, had a talk, then after a cooling off period continued with practice. But then one player fielded the ball, and from a distance of about 15 feet threw it as hard as she could to second base where, you guessed it, the other player was covering.<br/><br/>I stopped practice, telling everyone to take a break, and telling the two drama players to stay separated. I figured there was no need to continue practice so I started packing up. Another player approached me saying that I need to talk to them. I answered by saying, "What more can I say?" And I really didn't know what else to say. I already did the team talk, the walk away talk, etc. <br/><br/>After I packed up the gear, I went to the bleachers were most of the players were and called the rest over. Being at a loss for words I started out saying, "Before I say anything, would anyone like to speak first?" I wouldn't say what I did was inspirational, but a player spoke up starting out saying that things like this will split the team. Then another player spoke up, then another. Most of the players has something to contribute, a few remained silent. I was just amazed at the affect the players had speaking to their own team. I closed with telling the team that we had the best fielding, the best hitting, the most aggressive base running; that we have a shot at winning the championship; and reiterated what the first player who spoke up said.<br/><br/>I said practice was over, and started pulling bases as the players trickled out going home. After a few minutes a couple of them were still waiting for their parents. Yep, it was the two drama players. One was still sitting on the bleachers, while the other was wandering around behind the backstop. A nice distance, I thought. Then I saw the one behind the backstop approach the other player. I was concerned if there would be any more shoving and I made my way to the shed to put the bases away which was also moving towards the two players (just in case). Well, the two seemed to have worked something out. There were no sparks.<br/><br/>I was impressed at how the team was able to come together on their own. I was especially impressed at how the two drama players worked out their conflict. I didn't have to be the lecturing coach, which players seldom listen to anyway, and I didn't have to resort to punishments or ultimatums, or to turn the matter over to the Player Agent for resolution. <br/><br/>Oh, the team played like champions, and won the tournament. A couple seasons back (2006) I coached 14U. There was some steam between two of the players, but nothing ever erupted. Until during practice, with a couple weeks to go before our end-of-season tournament the two girls came to a face off and even shoved each other. I stopped them, had a talk, then after a cooling off period continued with practice. But then one player fielded the ball, and from a distance of about 15 feet threw it as hard as she could to second base where, you guessed it, the other player was covering.

I stopped practice, telling everyone to take a break, and telling the two drama players to stay separated. I figured there was no need to continue practice so I started packing up. Another player approached me saying that I need to talk to them. I answered by saying, “What more can I say?” And I really didn’t know what else to say. I already did the team talk, the walk away talk, etc.

After I packed up the gear, I went to the bleachers were most of the players were and called the rest over. Being at a loss for words I started out saying, “Before I say anything, would anyone like to speak first?” I wouldn’t say what I did was inspirational, but a player spoke up starting out saying that things like this will split the team. Then another player spoke up, then another. Most of the players has something to contribute, a few remained silent. I was just amazed at the affect the players had speaking to their own team. I closed with telling the team that we had the best fielding, the best hitting, the most aggressive base running; that we have a shot at winning the championship; and reiterated what the first player who spoke up said.

I said practice was over, and started pulling bases as the players trickled out going home. After a few minutes a couple of them were still waiting for their parents. Yep, it was the two drama players. One was still sitting on the bleachers, while the other was wandering around behind the backstop. A nice distance, I thought. Then I saw the one behind the backstop approach the other player. I was concerned if there would be any more shoving and I made my way to the shed to put the bases away which was also moving towards the two players (just in case). Well, the two seemed to have worked something out. There were no sparks.

I was impressed at how the team was able to come together on their own. I was especially impressed at how the two drama players worked out their conflict. I didn’t have to be the lecturing coach, which players seldom listen to anyway, and I didn’t have to resort to punishments or ultimatums, or to turn the matter over to the Player Agent for resolution.

Oh, the team played like champions, and won the tournament.

]]> By: Anonymous http://allaboutfastpitch.com/Blog/keep-the-drama-off-the-field/comment-page-1/#comment-157 Anonymous Tue, 17 Jun 2008 01:24:00 +0000 http://allaboutfastpitch.com/Blog/?p=592#comment-157 I cannot stand the drama on or near the field. That has nothing to do with softball and should be left behind. My team experienced some drama issues because a few girls didn't know when to shut up about things. And the people it was about found out. Not a pretty situation. I hate it.<br/><br /><br/>SAVE THE DRAMA FOR YOUR MAMA! I cannot stand the drama on or near the field. That has nothing to do with softball and should be left behind. My team experienced some drama issues because a few girls didn’t know when to shut up about things. And the people it was about found out. Not a pretty situation. I hate it.

SAVE THE DRAMA FOR YOUR MAMA!

]]> By: Anonymous http://allaboutfastpitch.com/Blog/keep-the-drama-off-the-field/comment-page-1/#comment-156 Anonymous Mon, 16 Jun 2008 23:18:00 +0000 http://allaboutfastpitch.com/Blog/?p=592#comment-156 I coach a 14u FP team and talk about DRAMA>>>>>>>>! The girls that sat more often hated a few of the girls that got more play time, name calling, back stabbing etc.....even the mom's got involved! Finally, I made team members and parents sign a contract stating that they will be sent home from the game or practice or even off of the team if I hear any more of it. In the past 3 weeks, I have taken 1 girl off of the roster (the main trouble maker)and sent 1 girl home from practice and told her she could only return on "probation". Problem fixed for the most part. A tourney this weekend though, I had to "lecture" 2 moms on keeping it off of the field and how their attitudes are affecting our team. They dont like another mom. I have found out that the girls get the drama from the attitudes of their parents. All ended well after a rough start this weekend though. We are making progress, slowly but surely. I am worried though because I will be adding 2 experienced players to the roster in a few days and I expect some fall-out from that. Im not quite sure how to break up the cliqueness that has found its way onto the team. We have qualified for the World Series, but I have serious doubts about taking this group of girls! I coach a 14u FP team and talk about DRAMA>>>>>>>>! The girls that sat more often hated a few of the girls that got more play time, name calling, back stabbing etc…..even the mom’s got involved! Finally, I made team members and parents sign a contract stating that they will be sent home from the game or practice or even off of the team if I hear any more of it. In the past 3 weeks, I have taken 1 girl off of the roster (the main trouble maker)and sent 1 girl home from practice and told her she could only return on “probation”. Problem fixed for the most part. A tourney this weekend though, I had to “lecture” 2 moms on keeping it off of the field and how their attitudes are affecting our team. They dont like another mom. I have found out that the girls get the drama from the attitudes of their parents. All ended well after a rough start this weekend though. We are making progress, slowly but surely. I am worried though because I will be adding 2 experienced players to the roster in a few days and I expect some fall-out from that. Im not quite sure how to break up the cliqueness that has found its way onto the team. We have qualified for the World Series, but I have serious doubts about taking this group of girls!

]]> By: Anonymous http://allaboutfastpitch.com/Blog/keep-the-drama-off-the-field/comment-page-1/#comment-155 Anonymous Mon, 16 Jun 2008 21:46:00 +0000 http://allaboutfastpitch.com/Blog/?p=592#comment-155 Drama on the field or in the dugout is only there if it is tolerated. There are too many girls that want to play softball to tolerate such an issue. If your an adult with Drama problems...check yourself! You lead by example. Little eyes are watching and little ears listening.<br/>There's a place for drama.....it's call HOLLYWOOD. Leave it off the field. Drama on the field or in the dugout is only there if it is tolerated. There are too many girls that want to play softball to tolerate such an issue. If your an adult with Drama problems…check yourself! You lead by example. Little eyes are watching and little ears listening.
There’s a place for drama…..it’s call HOLLYWOOD. Leave it off the field.

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